Having children is a personal and private decision. For some, it may be a sensitive topic far beyond what we may realize. This question posed several contentions we decided to ask a couple of females between the ages of 25 and 40 to share some reasons it may be a difficult question and why others should be more cautious when asking.
- Audrey L., 40, New York: Infertility: Some women are struggling with the issue of infertility. In these instances, naturally, being asked can be quite uncomfortable especially if they do not believe you can empathize.
- Nicole R., 36, Connecticut: Hysterectomy: Many women have had a hysterectomy which may have been the result of a myriad of circumstances, from an illness, an accident or a medical condition which may have led to having one.
- Blaine S., 32, Anaheim, Ca: Relationship issues: Not everyone shares what is happening in their home. Consider the person you are asking is not ready to expose the relationship is facing difficulties.
- Elane, 25, Chicago: No kids, no thank you: Some couples choose not to have children. Maybe they feel kids are not for them. It can be uncomfortable to expose that notion.
- Talina W., 28, Brooklyn, NY: Finances: Kids are expensive. Some couples prefer to wait for that 'perfect' moment, job, or bank account.
- Ilene T., 28, Westchester, NY: Miscarriages: Not only is having a miscarriage painful; it can be mentally and physically draining. Having to face such a question would only increase those emotional burdens.
So, the next time you see your favorite couple and feel inclined to ask them the question, "When are you going to have children," think back to this article. Hold your tongue and wait for them to bring up the topic to you.