How can I grow, evolve and do better despite what people say?

There are those who will remind youof your missteps and ill choices, despite your growth and progress, regardless ofthe many layers that comprise you and so I say to you, stay strong.  There are those who will attempt to keep you in a box, like a Polaroid snapshot  picture, remembering you as the exact person that you once were and reject, refuse to accept, learn, or even experience the miracle and beauty that you’ve become, or possibly were all along. Some willchoose to amplify your shortcomings and flaws, and harp on all that is wrong with you, but the thing is, that’s their prerogative – so let them! Just live your life and do what makes you happy. Easier said, than done, I know.

There will be folks who willopt to tolerate you, rather than celebrate you, and in such a situation you have a choice to stay or to leave. Is anything in between ever worth it? There are those who will claim to love you and say that they’re just being tough on you because they want the best for you. Sometimes they are the very same folks whose presence is most felt when they’recriticizing, judging and rejecting you. When this happens we have the option to be thankful and actually bless them for showing us who they are (in that moment) and even consider that they too may be going through something. Have you ever heard of the saying, "Hurt people, hurt people." Well they do, and we're no exception on either end.

If we could change ourselves, the tendencies in the world would also change. As a man changes his own nature, so does the attitude of the world change towards him. We need not wait to see what others do.
— Ghandi

There are those who’ve gone through their own growing pains, who sometimes speak and act as  if they’ve forgotten that others grow and learn at their own pace too, often resonating as condescending. In such a case, a little bit of humility goes a long way. How does putting down the next human being for where they are in life, help them?  I'm convinced that if we can't extend our hands, then we should probably close our mouths and try opening our hearts - even more than we think we've done already. Every minute is a moment to evolve, grow and do better and so, let's do this!

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