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How much will Meghan adjust to British etiquette

Meghan Markle is getting ready to join the Royal Family this weekend as she exchanges vows with Prince Harry. What will she have to know as she adjusts to the English lifestyle?

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Meghan Markle attends an Invictus Games Reception at Australia House on April 21, 2018 in London. Max Mumby/Indigo/Getty Images

Sharon Schweitzer, an international etiquette, culture and modern manners expert, who is the founder of Access to Culture (https://www.protocolww.com/), says these are some of the things Markle will have to learn: 

General cultural differences that Meghan Markle will have to become aware of:

●       Americans tend to be more direct, confident and loud compared to our English counterparts which - while part of the allure of America’s culture of progress and diversity - can sometimes be taken as brash or even discourteous. This includes swearing, sarcasm, exchanging insults and criticism.

●       Brits generally value professionalism, discretion, and formality in actions, behavior, and appearance. This ranges from high levels of professionalism in the workplace to politeness in public and is especially true with dining etiquette, in which Americans tend to be much more informal.

●       One key to understanding British behavior is picking up on subtle cues and reading between the lines, where an American is more likely to be straight to the point.

 

Cultural faux-pas that Meghan Markle will need to be aware of:

●       Complaining, especially at the moment or directed at someone.

●       Blocking exists or standing on the left side of escalators, which is meant for passing.

●       Forgetting your P’s and Q’s. Brits are extremely polite; be generous with your manners.

●       Making small talk on the Tube when everyone’s headed to work or home.

●       Buying yourself a drink when out with friends without picking up a round for the group

●       Talking or yelling loudly, especially not making a scene. Cool, polite and collected is the expected behavior.

●       Inappropriate discussion topics, which include religion, politics, and money

●       In the UK, people don’t just eat, they dine, often with friends and loved ones and with polished table manners.

●       In British dining style, you keep your fork on your non-dominant side when taking a bite, unlike the American “zigzag” style where you switch hands.

●       Americans will sometimes cut up several pieces of food before actually eating to avoid so much hand switching; however, the rule is one bite at a time. Otherwise, your food gets cold and it resembles the way a parent cuts up food for a three or four-year-old.

●       When finished eating, you should put your utensils down neatly on the plate (tines down) at the 4:30 position.

Differences with British wedding culture that Meghan Markle will need to know:

●       Weddings in the UK take place in a church or in a licensed venue due to government regulations

●       British brides buy their bridesmaids’ dresses

●       The maid of honor is known as the chief bridesmaid in the UK, and they sit during the ceremony rather than stand

●       Groomsmen in the UK are called ushers

●       Fruitcake is the classic wedding cake in the UK

●       Female guests in the UK wear hats to the wedding – a very important piece of attire!

●       American wedding toasts are more personal and touching, with British speeches often more comical

●       “Wedding breakfast” in the UK actually refers to a post-wedding meal generally in the afternoon.

Words that Meghan Markle will have to become familiar with:

●       Americans say you’re “into” someone when you like them; in the UK you “fancy” them

●       Blinding – meaning “excellent”

●       Corker – someone or something that stands out

●       Eating irons – cutlery, eating utensils

●       Penny-dreadful – a tabloid

●       Chuffed – pleased or delighted

●       Dishy – good looking

●       Dosh – a reference to pounds like the US uses “buck” for dollars

●       Knackered - tired

 


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How to use caffeine to get rid of cellulite

Caffeine Cure.
 
Cellulite enemy #1 is caffeine, as it tightens and provides antioxidants to the skin when applied topically. 

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However, if you apply it religiously, studies show that it can reduce the appearance of cellulite, especially over time. Caffeine can also dehydrate the water content of your fat cells, so they’re less swollen, and cellulite looks less obvious.

So, how on earth do we get that into our skincare routine?
 
Scrub Up!
 
You can go DIY by mixing ground coffee with coconut oil and some sea salt for a unique exfoliation treatment, but equally, you can save yourself some time and invest in a shower scrub that contains caffeine as one of the leading ingredients. To boost the treatment, invest in a dry brush. Top Tip: Before getting in the shower, use your dry brush to exfoliate and stimulate blood flow. Brush lightly in a circular motion on any problem areas, or all over your body to reap the full benefits of dry brushing.
 
Follow Up.

Exfoliating skin care for post-shower is essential. Invest in a deep rich moisturizer, which will help to keep skin hydrated in-between your exfoliating schedule. You can even get caffeine moisturizers which can help prolong the effects.


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If you are suffering like this then it's time for a mental break

Busy in different ways, us women do not know when to quit! Appointments made, gatherings to attend, and deadlines to meet and yet never knowing if our mental state is in a desperate need of a break. 

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  • Feeling an intense headache, a stubborn cough, or a sniffle. Your immune system is under attack, and only rest can fix it.
  • Dwelling on the past Living in a time loop on a mistake you made earlier can only stress you out, and no good will come of focusing all your energy on something you cannot change. 
  • When you begin to skip personal necessities. Skipping dinner or sleep can begin to take a toll on you physically and mentally, so allow your body to rest and enjoy that extra scoop of mac & cheese.
  •  So exhausted you cannot sleep. Your body is so wound up it cannot mentally shut down and let your body rest.
  • Feeling anxious and sad all the time you are left with overwhelming emotion, and it consists of anxiousness and sadness. 
  • Taking a mental break and stepping back from stress-induced routines is psychological health 101 and needs to be enforced within the daily lives of women. 

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Advice Alert: You have to get rid of these things in your closet

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Trust me when you dump these you will be so happy.

  • Free promo t-shirts and hats
  • Any shirt, pant, skirt, or dress you have not worn in 6 months
  • Clothes that fit too small or too big
  • The outfit you love the idea of but is never actually worn
  • Bras that are hanging on by the literal thread
  • Your favorite shirt in multiple colors
  • Any piece of clothing you have been planning to repair but never do

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Strategies for Strength

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"Being able to remember to laugh helps to keep things in perspective."

Many people look at my travel photos and may be unaware that besides having adventures around the world, I work as a registered nurse too. It is one of the less glamorous hats I wear, but it is the most character-defining job to date.

In 2003, as a newly minted registered nurse, I had the privilege of working on the Burns, Plastics, and Trauma unit at Vancouver’s most significant academic teaching hospital. It was here that I not only learned to hone my clinical skills but also gained perspective on life through a few great life lessons. The most prominent lesson learned: resilience. 

How can you be strong in times of adversity?  
For years, you might not imagine that your teachers could be the unsuspecting patients that you would encounter and care for. You know that these horrific and traumatic events would change their lives forever but didn’t realize they would change yours. After this enlightening moment, I became a keen student; I would listen, collect and recall their stories.

There is a physical (medical and surgical) aspect of caring for a trauma patient, but there was also an emotional one. No textbook could adequately cover the complicated emotional rollercoaster of a patient’s journey. Everyone’s story was unique as well as the way they dealt with their circumstance to rise above. These stories are strategies for strength that you can use in your everyday life, no matter what your situation.

  • A sense of Humor: Being able to remember to laugh helps to keep things in perspective. There’s the saying that if you do not laugh, you will cry. I have done both: I laughed things off when I reminisce about younger years with my high school friends, and I have also cried when I remember how lonely I felt on the first day of eighth-grade in a brand new school in a brand new city. I also saw this when I watched the movie Stronger, a film about Jeff Bauman’s journey of recovery after having bilateral above the knee amputations as a result of the 2013 Boston Marathon bombing. He compared himself to ‘Lieutenant Dan’ from Forrest Gump offsetting the severe nature of his injury. As Forrest Gump reminds us, “Life is like a box of chocolates, you never know what you are going to get.”
  • Self-Reflection: While some rely on their humor, others can depend on self-reflection and outward expression as their coping mechanism. As someone who keeps a journal to express my thoughts, I can relate to this method, mainly since I sat down years ago and penned my novella, The Love List. Extracting the swirling ideas in your mind can help provide clarity to your situation, whether you are contemplating your next career move or big life decision. I came across Jane Diamond, a trained ballet dancer who lost her ability to walk after a tragic motor vehicle accident. After countless years of multiple surgeries, loneliness, and frustration, she turned to asking herself practical questions like, “What am I waking up for?” and “How did I want to live my life?” Her answers became her short- and long-term guide and today Jane now works as a wellness coach, personal trainer and yes – she walks. Who, what, when, where and why. Start with that and see what flows out of your pen (or fingers, if you are more of the digital type). You might be pleasantly surprised how therapeutic this may be.
  • Social Network: As much as I enjoy my alone time, I am a social creature who surrounds myself with love and support. In good times, this may not be as important; in times of need, like when I have seen exhausted families sleep in uncomfortable plastic chairs for a chance to hear health care professionals provide their assessment of their loved ones, a secure social network is critical. I can also personally attest to this when I worked as a nurse to see the power of loved ones. Todd Green* was in a minor accident; however, a couple of his surgeries had failed outcomes. He was down-in-the-dumps, but his family and friends, and the steady stream of well-wishers shielded him from the actual emotional toil they felt. Instead, they banded together and kept his room a haven for positive vibes. I know who will lift me up when I need some TLC. Who is your go-to support?

 
Although I am no longer a front-line clinician, I am reminded of these strategies for strength when I hear success stories like those of Jeff, Jane, and Todd. All three were able to come back from their accidents and use the strength from those around them, and within, to walk away from being victims of circumstance to becoming resilient heroes in their own right.


*Patient name has been changed to maintain their privacy.*

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Tips on How to Nail a Spot on The TV Show, Shark Tank!

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Making an appearance on Shark Tank can be an excellent opportunity for a company looking for extra capital. As you may know, competition to land a  coveted spot on the ABC show is steep. Just ask Fresh Patch founder Andrew Feld. He successfully landed a spot in season 9 of Shark Tank. Below are some tips from Feld to fellow entrepreneurs on how they can also get in front of the sharks.

  • Bring the energy.  The Shark Tank casting directors are viewing thousands of submissions so you must make yourself stand out from the pack.  My wife is a film producer, so I was lucky to have her help with my submission video.  Every time she recorded my pitch she would say "more energy, more energy!"  She had me doing jumping jacks and push-ups between takes.
  • Do your homework.  When you go on Shark Tank, you are walking into a room of big egos.  Sharks assume that you already know their backgrounds and that you know what each of them can bring to the table as an investor.  Direct your pitch to all of the sharks instead of just focusing on one. In fact, I was so sure that the pet-loving Robert Herjavec was the best shark for our dog product.  I was shocked that he was the only one who decided to pass on Fresh Patch.  
  •  Be passionate.    Sharks love to invest in entrepreneurs who wear their heart on their sleeve and are willing to do whatever it takes to make their company successful. Running a business can be a rollercoaster, and the sharks prefer to invest in entrepreneurs who won't let anything stand in their way.  
  • Definitely, haggle.   The sharks are not afraid to make a low-ball offer for your business.  If this happens, the worst thing a contestant can do is agree to the first offer.  Accepting a low ball offer devalues your company, but more importantly, it does not make for good television.  The back and forth negotiation process is an integral part of the show.  You might end up getting a deal with a shark. However, your episode may never see the light of day because it lacked entertainment value.  

About Fresh Patch Founder,Andrew Feld

After years of just making it as an actor in Los Angeles, founder Andrew Feld decided it was time to take control of his career. With love for animals, Feld always knew he would work with or help them in some capacity. When pee pads and synthetic grass toilets weren’t working with his dog, Chloe, he developed his solution - Fresh Patch!

Bringing home a new box or different type of grass to test out with Chloe each week, it took several months before he had a working prototype. With humble beginnings, he made his first deliveries out of his car. Now, Fresh Patch is quickly expanding into the ultimate in-home training system for dogs! Dogs want to “go” on real grass, and Feld is proud to give our furry friends a convenient way to do so, indoors.

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Pantone Color report. Perfect to help brand your business colors.

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Each season the team at the Pantone Color Institute creates the Pantone Fashion Color Trend Report; a color overview highlighting the top colors fashion designers showing at London Fashion Week will be featuring in their collections for the upcoming season. With color on the catwalk, a key indicator of the color stories we can expect to see showing up across all areas of design, the Pantone Fashion Color Trend Report is your easily accessible guide to the season’s most important color trends.
Similar to what we predicted for the runways in New York this season, the London Autumn/Winter 2018 palette demonstrated designers’ passionate desires to express originality, ingenuity, and creativity through fashion. In a color story that combined classicism with creative expression, the Pantone Fashion Color Trend Report for London Autumn/Winter 2018 features a bold palette of autumnal hues complemented by some more surprising shades.
 


Continuing to highlight the desire for color that transcends the seasons, the report for Autumn/Winter 2018 underscores the top 12 colors for men’s and women’s fashion, as well as five new classics. Highlighting the experimental nature of London fashion, we called out two additional shades for London; PANTONE 15-1515 Mellow Rose, a beloved and subtle, traditional English shade, and PANTONE 18-2045 Pink Peacock, in contrast, a striking statement color.
 
The continued transition away from cyclical trends, combined with a strong focus on self-expression and more exuberant color mixes makes for some surprisingly delightful color surprises in the autumn/winter palette. Exploring nuances within color families and experimenting with the mixing of materials and textures freshens and reinvents the seasonal color story.
 
Many of these unique shades easily stand on their own, however, mixing and combining unexpected colors can help create a signature style or look. Adding an unexpected element allows for the artistry and originality that optimizes individuality.

Top 10 Color Palette Colours in New York

Autumnal hues that evoke the feeling of leaves on the forest floor, rich plumage and twilight reveal a modern fall palette of deep and rich tones with outbursts of colorful surprise.

The colours featured in the semiannual Pantone Fashion Color Trend Report are selected from the Pantone FASHION, HOME + INTERIORS Color System, the most widely used and recognized colour standards system for fashion, textile, home and interior design. Each season, the Pantone Color Institute issues the Pantone® Fashion Color Trend Report as semi-annual colour trend forecasts for the upcoming season, highlighting the top colours you can expect to see at New York Fashion Week and London Fashion Week. The Pantone® Fashion Color Trend Report serves as a colour reference throughout the season for fashion enthusiasts, reporters, and retailers.

Get more information at www.pantone.com
 
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The hidden dangers of spring shopping. How to protect yourself.

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Simple Self-Defense Skills Women Need for Shopping Alone
Personal safety experts share tips that can help protect busy shoppers

Simple Self-Defense Skills Women Need for Shopping Alone
Personal safety experts share tips that can help protect busy shoppers


As women all over the country are preparing to head to shopping centers to find the perfect swimsuit for all their upcoming Spring and Summer plans, It is crucial to acknowledge that leaving malls and shopping centers nonchalant with hands full of bags can be dangerous if the shopper is not aware of the surroundings. Every year around 300,000 women are raped, and over half of these crimes go unreported.  It is vital for women to know how to protect themselves from these, and all, types of crimes. As extreme as this sound, Krav Maga Worldwide, a leading self-defense organization is informing shoppers how they can stay safe with some basic self-defense tips.
 

  1. Stay aware of your surroundings by scanning your environment. No matter how busy you are, do not allow your mind to wander. It might seem important at the moment to be making a to-do list in your head, but if you are worrying if you will have time to stop at the specialty food store on your way home to pick up appetizers for tomorrow’s party you might not notice someone following you to your vehicle. 
  2. Park in well-lit areas - even if it means that you have to walk a bit further. It is best to avoid shopping after the sun has gone down, but if you must try to bring a friend or family member along with you. When you park, avoid parking next to vans, trucks with camper shells, or cars with tinted windows. You want to keep your vehicle as visible to as many people as possible, and as such, you should also avoid parking next to tall shrubs or plants that could block views of your vehicle.
  3. Don't wear your purse so that the strap crosses your body. Wearing a purse strap across your body makes you more connected to your bag. If someone tries to steal your purse, you will be pulled with the belt. You can become unbalanced and put into a vulnerable position, or you could end up in a physical altercation with the assailant. If your purse is draped on one shoulder, you can quickly let go of it.
  4. Dress casually and comfortably. The mall during holiday shopping season is not the time to make a fashion statement. It is better to leave the high heels and flashy statement-making pieces at home. Jeans and sneakers will help you blend in and if needed enable you to make a quick getaway. Also, avoid wearing large and expensive looking jewelry that can draw additional attention to you. 
  5. Don't hesitate to ask a security guard to walk you to your car. If you are shopping at night and the crowds at the mall have thinned out for the day, taking an extra step to stay safe is always a good idea. Alternatively, plan and pay the few extra dollars to valet park your car, so you do not have to walk to it alone with arms full of bags. 

About Krav Maga Worldwide
Founded in 1997 to promote Krav Maga throughout the United States and around the world, Krav Maga Worldwide trains and certifies instructors and licenses over 150 authorized Krav Maga Worldwide training centers.  In the United States, Canada, Japan, Mexico, South America, and Europe, as well as over 800 law enforcement agencies and military units. Krav Maga offers the highest caliber of instruction to thousands of people, supporting the company’s core commitment to improving and saving lives. Krav Maga Worldwide continues to develop, promote and implement self-defense and fitness programs. For additional information, visit www.kravmaga.com

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"Why my last Winter Olympics was about so much more than medals"

 An emotional moment following the women's super-G at the 2018 Winter Olympics on Feb. 17, 2018. Christophe Ena / AP

An emotional moment following the women's super-G at the 2018 Winter Olympics on Feb. 17, 2018. Christophe Ena / AP

By Lindsay Vonn

I did everything I went to South Korea to do: I skied my heart out, I skied for my grandfather and I enjoyed every second of being part of Team USA.

The 2018 Winter Olympics was a completely different experience than any of my previous Olympics games. Knowing that I was trying to win a medal for my grandfather — who died in November and whose ashes I spread in South Korea — was very emotional. This is something that I've been dealing with since he passed away.

But also knowing that it was my last Olympics pushed me to enjoy every second of it — from an athletic perspective, but also from an individual perspective. Spending time with my teammates. Going to the opening and closing ceremonies. Really running the whole gambit. I wanted to make sure that I had a meaningful last Olympics, whether I won an Olympic medal or not.

There is just something so special about being a part of Team USA. It's always an honor to represent your country, of course, but especially at the Olympics. I feel more unified with my teammates, and with our country, than I have at any other time in my career and my life.

And I think I did everything I went to South Korea to do. On the athletics side, I skied my heart out. I skied for my grandfather. And I enjoyed every second of being a part of Team USA and sharing this experience with my teammates.

When you're racing World Cups or the World Championships, it's more individual. The World Championships is just Alpine skiing, for example, so it's a totally different ballgame. But I’ll never forget going on the "TODAY Show" and seeing the entire women's hockey team with their gold medals. Their energy and enthusiasm and excitement was just so incredible to be a part of. And watching them really reminded me that we are all on the same team. We're all pulling for each other, and to be able to celebrate with them was really special.

Read the full op-ed on nbcnews.com

(As told to THINK editor Meredith Bennett-Smith; edited for clarity.)

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'Black Panther' Star Danai Gurira On Showing The World What Black Women Can Be

Black Panther and The Walking Dead star Danai Gurira is tired of the world telling her what black women could be. Instead, she's showing the world and inspiring countless women in the process. Danai sat down with  Bustle for an empowering interview and stunning photo shoot. Danai dished on the importance of "standing on other people's shoulders," embracing where she came from, and the truth she swears by today.

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On the women of Wakanda...

"I think that a powerful woman of today has to be subversive, because what is conventional is not acceptable for us anymore. It’s unacceptable. I’d say if there’s any little bit of Okoye I’d love anyone to have, including myself, is to subvert any lies that we’ve been told. [For example], she’s fierce and feminine. The two things live together quite contentedly in her, and I think that... we’ve been lied to about that too, and we can’t let that be perpetuated anymore. We can be all those things."

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On embracing who she is and where she comes from...

"There are some esteem issues that come with the assault of being colonized and being dominated and being marginalized. But we have to push through those and embrace and immerse ourselves in the stunningness that is of us. You have to get on that one man boat and go out into the raging storm until you get to the break of a new day. You have to get to the point where it’s like this is not truth, and consequently it is no longer going to be my truth. And now I’m going to embrace the power of who I am and where I’m from."

Read the full interview here

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Why should I drink black Seed oil?

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Black seed oil is said to have unlimited health benefits. Cures everything but death they say. Today, Meech, host of The Fitness Radar shares what Black see oil has done for him and why you should consider giving it a try. 

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